I mentioned in the ‘Weekend in Pictures‘ that I had been talking to someone and they said this great thing. They were explaining why they wrote a pop song about something ‘silly like black pepper’ rather than the ‘generally accepted silliness of love and relationships’.
That left me thinking about just that, the silliness of love and relationships. I am sure he meant something intelligent and existential but it made me ponder the awkwardness and silliness of my own experience of love and relationships. You see, I am particularly gifted in being silly and awkward when it comes to romance.
There is the silliness of accepting compliments … SO UNCOMFORTABLE. My first boyfriend tried to tell me my smile was pretty. I slapped my hand over my mouth and yelled ‘Shut up!’. 12 years later I have improved in this area but not by much.. my current strategy is to either a) ignore it entirely and keep talking or b) make fun of the compliment giver ensuring they won’t make that same mistake again!
The silliness of dates with someone you don’t really know. I went on a date recently and was seeing a friend beforehand so showed them pictures of the date on my iphone (incase they turned out to be axe man - you can never be too careful!) and she managed to ‘like’ 10 of his pictures without realising. That was uncomfortable. However the great thing about dates with someone you don’t really know is that it doesn’t get too serious, you can have fun and when it doesn’t work out you’re generally not gutted, you’ve made a friend AND you don’t have to see/run into them all the time.
The silliness of saying yes to dates even when you don’t really want to just because you think you’ll be judged if you don’t. It has been said to me, ‘you have to stop being so choosy, he is hot and you may not get another one like that!’ So uncomfortably I said yes and then hid from him. He got the idea.
The silliness of rejection. Being rejected, awful. Doing the rejecting, more awful and then sometimes the immense relief that you’ve been rejected therefore you don’t have to be the rejector!
The silliness and awkwardness of kissing. Oh man, everyone else seems to kiss in a super cool and smooth way. I am the one who bumps heads/teeth or, in the excitement of kissing, forgets to breathe. Even though I regularly breathe through my nose in general life I seem to always forget to do so when kissing. I frequently vow to ‘practice’, err …on my hand ?- i guess, but always forget until I once again am about to pass out, not from being overcome by passion and intensity but from lack of oxygen.
The silliness and awkwardness of not kissing. There was one poor, poor, boy who dated me when I was a teenager and for six months… SIX MONTHS, we didn’t kiss. He tried, I thought that he was just talking really close to me and would get cross-eyed trying to look at him. He also would get a little saliva bubble on his teeth when he got nervous… I didn’t want it to pop on me.
The silliness relating to the fine line between stalker and romantic. I think that line is defined by how hot the person is. The words ‘I thought you looked pretty’ can be either creepy or butterfly inducing depending on whether you want to hear it from that person in particular or not. Poor guys, they have no chance really.
The silliness that your friends assume you’re going to die a long, slow and lonely death if you’re not ‘snapped up’ soon and as a result a well-meaning flurry of set ups ensue. Ok, maybe that’s an exaggeration. Maybe.
The silliness in the assumption that because someone ‘likes’ your photo on facebook that they are, in fact, in love with you.
The silliness that going for coffee and a few text messages mean you want someone’s babies.
The silliness in all the pondering on this silliness and taking it too seriously.
Life is such fun,
laugh at it
and make new friends.
Now I may be alone in experiencing all this silliness so as always please don’t judge me.
Happy Hump Day! (wait .. that is what they call Wednesday’s isn’t it? Somehow it takes on a slightly different meaning in the context of this post?)